Flora : I respect your views and you are clearly entitled to them
Flora : I respect your views and you are clearly entitled to them. However, just as you say that, if others do not support the chnlove website they should simply ignore it, my gentle advice to you is that you may want to do likewise should you find these posts upsetting for whatever the reason. This website is, after all, set up for people to share bad experiences on dating websites, which happen to include Chnlove. Definitely, it was never created to represent itself as a Board to advertise Chnlove or any other paid dating service site.
It is simply wrong to try to gloss over stories of gentlemen who have been misled, or been victims of fraud. Perhaps that is why you may find the comments on this forum to be harsh from your own perspective. Simply stated, they are not the "authors of their own misfortune." To claim otherwise is akin to rubbing the proverbial salt into so many open wounds.
Likewise, I have before commented that, whereas, *here*, I have seen gentlemen at least speak about being prepared for the financial commitments to the lady and agency that may later arise, the *other* websites which "promote" Chnlove have curiously now been "advising" very aggressively that their members use various means to "hide" or lie about their plans for marriage in an effort to avoid any financial obligations the Lady may be threatened with by her Agency or Chnlove. Maybe your time would be better spent monitoring *them*. Perhaps, then, this would finally bring to an immediate head, swiftly and publicly, the issue of what the "real" costs are to these many gentlemen who are being sold a certain bill of goods.
Doug : I am going to reserve personal comment until I have had time to re-read and follow-up with everything posted. However, I would like to write that while the Regular Posters here always encouraged everybody to tell their stories, Pfishy is not set up to host multiple threads, only site-by-site reviews. Since you have provided your email address already, perhaps there will be some who will take you up on your offer. Consider posting your stories on Chnlove's own Forums, if you have not done so already, because I believe it would provide you with a ready and more *relevant* audience than here. Congratulations that you found what you were seeking.
Flora : I respect your views and you are clearly entitled to them. However, just as you say that, if others do not support the chnlove website they should simply ignore it, my gentle advice to you is that you may want to do likewise should you find these posts upsetting for whatever the reason. This website is, after all, set up for people to share bad experiences on dating websites, which happen to include Chnlove. Definitely, it was never created to represent itself as a Board to advertise Chnlove or any other paid dating service site.
It is simply wrong to try to gloss over stories of gentlemen who have been misled, or been victims of fraud. Perhaps that is why you may find the comments on this forum to be harsh from your own perspective. Simply stated, they are not the "authors of their own misfortune." To claim otherwise is akin to rubbing the proverbial salt into so many open wounds.
Likewise, I have before commented that, whereas, *here*, I have seen gentlemen at least speak about being prepared for the financial commitments to the lady and agency that may later arise, the *other* websites which "promote" Chnlove have curiously now been "advising" very aggressively that their members use various means to "hide" or lie about their plans for marriage in an effort to avoid any financial obligations the Lady may be threatened with by her Agency or Chnlove. Maybe your time would be better spent monitoring *them*. Perhaps, then, this would finally bring to an immediate head, swiftly and publicly, the issue of what the "real" costs are to these many gentlemen who are being sold a certain bill of goods.
Doug : I am going to reserve personal comment until I have had time to re-read and follow-up with everything posted. However, I would like to write that while the Regular Posters here always encouraged everybody to tell their stories, Pfishy is not set up to host multiple threads, only site-by-site reviews. Since you have provided your email address already, perhaps there will be some who will take you up on your offer. Consider posting your stories on Chnlove's own Forums, if you have not done so already, because I believe it would provide you with a ready and more *relevant* audience than here. Congratulations that you found what you were seeking.