Hey, ehuser1, I have to agree. I had a similar experience (it was almost like they were doing the matches through some word search engine, so if you said "I like all music except for jazz," they'd give you somebody who was a jazz musician). I also had the additional problem of not being able to log on the site consistently, and I was using Internet Explorer! Luckily, I got my money refunded quite promptly ($250) after I threatened to go to the County District Attorney's office and report them. Here's my two cent's worth of advice--check with your local office, they usually have Consumer Complaint departments you can file with if some company's really burned you. And a friend turned me on to meetup.com. There are a lot of groups that you can join to meet actual real people, which I think works best of all. Good luck to you (and everybody else on this site). Fight back if you can!
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Eharmony is an absolute WASTE of time.
The service boasts serious relationship material can be found on here. Baloney.
While the majority of men on there seem to have a bit more going for them than a non paying site, it does not preclude them from being serial dating elitists.
EH matches you with non paying members with whom you cannot communicate with. These folks try out the free weekend option and cancel - so even if you are interested - good luck. They have to be a paying member to contact you or vice versa.
There are men (and I am certain women as well) who are so picky to the degree that they will be in a nursing home alone until they find the perfect 10.
I was a member for 3 months to the tune of roughly $120. Matches galore poured in the first few days - most of which were clear across the country. Not an option and one I stated was NOT AN OPTION on my profile. Most did not have a profile picture. Sorry, but I am not interested in dating an anonymous person. Either you are serious and put it out there or stay home on the couch.
After the first week, I was amazed to see people closing me out as a match that I never even knew I was matched up with. Really was disconcerting to have a CLOSED YOU OUT message saying someone you had no idea was a match was not interested in you and then reading why. You are not allowed to respond to the potential match. A lot can be misunderstood or assumed online and it is ridiculous to not be able to expand on something a person would close you out for. Perhaps the misinterpreted the profile.
Additionally, it makes no sense for a potential match to close you out if you have never received the match as well. In other words, the match may be offered your profile as a fantastic match - but you would not be notified of that person, in kind. So it is a one way door and left up to EH. How is it a match if both are not told they are a match - and only one person is notified? Does anyone not notice this? It surely is a painful slap to be rejected much less by someone you had no idea was your match. Thanks for letting me know I suck according to some random guy I had no idea was a match.
Auto renew- I read the warning about this long in advance as I read reviews on EH. The service buries the auto renew option. The reason you cannot get out of it is because when signing up, the auto renew box is automatically selected for you. Unless you locate and UNCHECK the auto renew box (which is almost impossible to find), you are agreeing - by default - to sign up again for another long expensive stint. Of course this seems backwards and unethical. But you signed up for it and you have to read every page to find the disclaimers.
Over a few weeks into the service, women often realize they have less matches or none at all for some time. I would notice that if I did not check in on a daily basis I would have no matches. If I checked in on a daily basis, I would be lucky to have one or one that rejected my profile without even knowing I am a match. It were as though EH socializes it's members to check in or else they will be left out of the match pool. Again - if you are a match with someone - it should work both ways and both parties should be notified. Otherwise the BASIS of EH compatibility is complete BS.
Out of all the matches, I met ONE guy. He was charming and professional and we had a a nice time. Unfortunately he bragged about sex, conquests of younger women and bad mouthed his ex wife on the first date as well as asking me if I would ever consider getting remarried when I spoke with him before we ever met. He may be wanted in his field by many young women, and may want to settle down - but he later admitted he had no idea what he wanted and was just starting out. Had been one month out of a LT relationship that was on again off again. Which may explain why he took 5 days to even bother to call back after he had a wonderful time (while I listened to him prattle on about himself). He said he would call on a certain day and never did. Later claiming her forgot and got busy. Also adding he is very busy and we seem to be looking for two different things. One being that he doesnt know what he wants - me being a person who expected a call back either way - was deemed too serious. explain to me why a serial dater is on EH again? He spent more time calling me to bitch me out for asking if he was interested than to actually call back.
I am extremely pretty and very athletic and in excellent health and in good shape. My profile was written with EH guidelines and suggestions in mind and very broad and general.
It was funny to me to be rejected by some of the men on there I never knew were my matches. Especially those who (I counted three) indicate one of their MUST HAVES is great sex and thought beer was a food group and are not into GAMES. I guess there are some things we don't need to know up front. I am betting most people enjoy sex, but to list it on a profile is kind of nasty to most women looking for a LT relationship. Would hope that was a given. I always thought most men thought even bad sex was great. JK.
Reportedly, there almost twice as many women on the site as men and therefore, not much to offer women. It is a competition rather than a match for women. I personally am not interested in competing against volumes. Would be nice to have EH recognize this and adjust so that the female profile is not like a buffet for men.
The site basically sucks and so do some of the people on there. EH is a piss poor service for it's customers (clearly mostly men) and it's women base that are obviously outnumbered by one another.