3 Years With CHNLOVE: All the Hidden Facts!

Dear all,

I have tried CHNLOVE in and out. You get the full facts here, both the positive and (unfortunately) the overwhelming negative facts.

CHNLOVE is a pure money making machine.

Here a summary of 3 years experience with over 4'000 contacted and partly personally interviewed ladies over chinese QQ, MSN, YAHOO, SKYPE:

1. Not only gentlemen but also ladies are charged by CHNLOVE, or better, ripped off: they have to pay over 7'000 RMB just get listed, without any guarantee of finding their dream boy.

2. 95% of the ladies are posed in sexual or arousing positions and special clothing (sometimes "bitch-like") to attract foreigners. Most of those ladies would actually not want to pose that way, but they are forced or....dismissed! Because CHNLOVE wants to attract as much foreign money as possible. All ladies are "equipped" with quite some make-up. Most fotos are further "shaped" with Adobe Photoshop, mainly with the purpose to clean off all the (usual) spots and inpurities in the face.

3. The main goal is to arouse a foreigner (western) to either instantly chat with a girl of choice, or to send her a admiration letter. Both are very expensive services. It is true that a english letter is than translated into chinese, in order that the chinese lady can read it. But, what's the purpose of having a marriage with a lady that does not understand you? The translation varies from VERY POOR to EXCELLENT and even "EXCEEDING". The latter means that the translator adds to it.... you read correct: once the chinese lady replies, her original chinese letter is actually not written from her but just a short oral instruction over the phone. The translator then does the complete job. A simple line of "I am interested in knowing you better" usually is translated into very hot fantasies and pretty turning-on lines. You think it is the lady who has all that charme? Totally wrong. It is the translator who wrote you.

4. Often you don't meet the actual lady in the chat. There are night shifts. Many translators or agency employees take the job of chatting with you on behalf of the lady. And they are good, believe me.

5. Most of the admiration letters are NOT WRITTEN by the lady itself but by the translator of the agency. Why? Because most ladies are not able to handle the usually large number of admirers clicking on their profile (often 10, 20 or more). Therefore they "delegate" the job of finding potential guys, or sending out blind admiration letters to 20 guys of choice. They choose just the same way as you do: they look at the picture and say: this one.

6. Chat invitations are total computerized fakes. The invitations are done by the software in order to make you think the lady wants to chat with you. The invitations are usually a random variety of 30-40 standard sentences, such as "do you wanna meet the lady of your dreams", or "how is it going", or "hey, wanna chat?" .

7. If you disclose your personal email in your admiration letter (in the blue eyed hope that she would contact you directly), then rest assured that your email address is delivered to the lady with 1-2 wrong letters, or entirely deleted.
In case that she might have given you her email, it is usually slightly altered by the agency before sending out to you. You'll never get ANY direct mail. Now, if you insist on a second letter and ask why you did not get any response to your 4-5 direct emails, the lady (agency!!) is responding to you that you should have patience. Meaning: forget it. Wrong address. Don't even try.

8. I have managed to get into direct touch with many ladies through secret ways that I will not disclose here. It's a smart way of hacking. The above information simply resulted from many hours chatting with many CHNLOVE ladies that I met through other chat platforms.

9. Most of the ladies are not half as beautiful as displayed. But the old psychology works: the FIRST impression remains memorized in your brain. And you are most likely to "forgive" those little physical mistakes after having some closer contact with the lady. Check all the SUCCESS STORIES on CHNLOVE website. You will see that none of the ladies are actually beautiful. Trust me: the real beauties do not need CHNLOVE to find a guy. And trust me, there are very very good looking chinese guys (rich ones, too). The CHNLOVE market is for average ladies, not for beauties. But CHNLOVE transforms them into sexually arousing beauties in many cases. Thanks to make-up, good photography, arousing posing on a bed or floor (inviting...), sexy dresses and Adobe photoshop editing. It's perfect Hollywood made in China.

10. Why don't get in touch with the ladies so quickly? The agencies are freelancers and licensees of CHNLOVE. Their interest is not to make money with chat credits or admiration letter credits. They want to make big money on a marriage organization. That's their core business. Get you married and charge you high for making it happen.

11. Some of the ladies are whores or indecent ladies. They manage to get through the filters and will soon invite you to send them money. I admit: I had cyber sex with two of them. One of them asked me money (which I never sent and she got really wild....) and the other simply was married (yes!!) and in need of a bigger penis. As simple as that. (most asian guys have a smaller penis than western guys, but the penis size usually matches the also smaller vagina of asian ladies - they have nothing to complain here!). Thus, I met her twice in Shanghai, we fucked, she was happy, i was happy, done deal, she's back with her husband.

12. Some ladies are smart. Look out for those ones! They manage to find you on Skype or other means, if and only if your ID is identical to the ID in another platform. Example: JOHNNYHARPUR in CHNLOVE, and JOHNNYHARPUR@yahoo.com. But this case is seldom. However, one lady found me this way. We're not together, but we really enjoy a lovely friendship!

13. Most ladies want babies and marriage. And....YOU are supposed to pay everything. So, budget for 2+ always. And, in case of marriage, be prepared for a astronomical sum + presents to pay for (she has family and they expect many things....). In seldom cases you will find modern minded ladies. But don't fool yourself. China has traditional values.

14. Many many ladies are either divorced or have another serious problem: a baby without marriage. The usual story: they fell in love with the wrong guy, he made her pregnant and disappeared. That is a true drama for a chinese lady. It can really ruin her image and professional outlook. If you have a heart, then take one of those ladies. They will never ever leave you and love you for your big heart. Same story with divorced. Same image problem. And even more dramatic: mostly the custody of children is give to MEN, not women. Therefore, some divorced ladies are terribly suffering. They are mothers but seldom (or never!!) see their kids. They desire a new start - and usually really deserve it. If you choose a young lady who is divorced....stay away. She might be either a bitch or otherwise "difficult" in her character. But in many cases it is domestic violence that drives women into the (yet) taboo of divorce. Thus, choosing a divorced woman can be a very positive outlook: she learnt a lot from her previous marriage, has clear ideas about sex (usually out of bad marital sex...), knows how to cook good food, eager for quality of life, and has higher aspirations. She can be a real asset! In China she is a taboo (that's negative). This is your advantage due to open western culture.

15. Ladies with arousing or even partly showing niples or pubic hair should be totally avoided: FEMME FATALE! You're in trouble, seriously. You're much cheaper off with a whore.

16. CHNLOVE is a scam...and is not a scam. It depends on your viewpoint. If you try to get a "cheap" contact to a lady, CHNLOVE will rip you off totally! If you try to get a good lady and want to take your time (and are ready to invest between 500 and 1'000 USD to finally find the girl of your dreams), then you can really find some wonderful personalities.

17. Comparing chinese ladies and other asian ladies:
I do have my preferences. I made love and friends with many asian ladies and I do enjoy some really lovely friendships. The absolute best asian ladies are the japanese around 35+ age with a immense sense of loyalty and gentle behaviour. (but they can cheat, too, in a way you will never know, especially if you're not very faithful....don't tell me I did not warn you). Chinese ladies aren't really that charming as they appear. And chinese language is a imperative language. All the wonderful flowers you get in english does simply NOT EXIST in chinese. The original letters (I've seen some of them - I do read and speak chinese) are anything else but romantic. Rather straight to the point. No flowers, not much poetry at all. But if you have 2 decades of patience you get a chance to teach her the depths of our languages. Trust me, english, french, italien and german are far richer in expression when it comes to common language. Chinese is rather short, without many flowers. Only ancient chinese poetry can cope with our western language. Sorry to disappoint some disciples of the China ancient culture idea: THAT CULTURE has been WIPED OUT by Mao Zhedong. He did a full job.

18. Avoid ladies from Shenzhen. Most of them are in very "funny" professions (beautician could be translated into part-time bitch, but it is not necessarily always so - you'll never know).

19. Recommendations:
- expect english knowledge before any lady contacts you. Write it in your profile. If you get letters from "fair" or "learning english" ladies, skip them: they have no clue about english. You'll spend money and never understand each other.
- make a different name. Create your first name identical to some of your email names, or create an email identical to your first+middle+last name @ hotmail.com etc. Smart ladies could find you.
- download chinese QQ messenger. Most chinese ladies have either YAHOO or QQ for chat. There is a international version for QQ online (english).
- send out cupid notes first. the ladies that answer them might be the better option than the ladies (agency employees!) writing you a flower-power 100% generic fake admiration letter.
- Admiration letters that contain nowhere your name, except in the first line, are fakes.
- Admiration letters that contain expressions like "I'm looking for a man" are generic and fake. Never been written by the lady herself.
- Cupid or Admiration letters from too young ladies with too big age difference are usually fake or only money driven. Skip.
- Listen to your intuition: if the letter is too good to be true, then it is so.... if the lady looks too good for her age, then it is so.... (boy I had surprises! I met ladies on Skype later that looked double their age....)
- If you wish to be sure that a lady knows your direct email or phone number, then you have to go against the CHNLOVE rules and disclose it through the chat by typing it in words instead of numbers and @ symbols. Yet, the lady might be not the lady, but a employee, so try to sort that out FIRST. (But make sure you decide which number to give her - I had a lady ringing my phone for 96 hours every 2 minutes after i dumped her - asians are EXTREMELY jealous....).
- give preference to ladies above 30 (if you have that age). They are reasonable and not childish. Asian ladies below 25 are similar to our teenagers. If you have pedofile ambitions, that's okay. But I warned you here, you'll have continuous disputes with a young lady, and lots of quarrels over anything. Plus, they have that "dumping" button. For no reason they might dump you after a small word fight - and you'll NEVER EVER see them again!!

20. The best way to know a chinese lady: travel to China or Taiwan. Taiwanese are much more gentle. Hongkongese, too. Ladies from Bejing have more class. Ladies from Shanghai are spoiled by all means (sexually and by your credit card....). Ladies from Shenzhen aren't from Shenzhen, but are usually there for a particular reason... money.

21. Chinese ladies look gorgeous in their 20s, good in their 30s, acceptable in their 40s and terrible beyond. Japanese ladies remain attractive until beyond 50s. All other asian ladies are usually unattractive after mid 30s. Don't tell me I did not warn you....

22. There is a italian saying: mogli e buoi dai paesi tuoi (get the cows and wives from your village). And the saying has some truth! I have been married for over a decade to a asian. The number of misunderstandings in addition to the ordinary marriage challenges can really break a marriage. Make absolutely SURE to learn CHINESE BEFORE YOU MARRY!!!!!!!! Yes, this is a very warm recommendation from a friend. The best chinese school is in Taiwan, called TLI (Taipei Language Institute). They have branch offices also in China. I have learnt to speak chinese within 4 weeks with 5-6 individual lessons per day (one - to - one teaching, no classes), quite cheaply. This investment will safe your future marriage. Trust my word.

23. If you have sex with a chinese virgin, you can end up in serious trouble (you can get killed). If you have sex with a divorced or otherwise sexually experienced chinese lady, that's okay. But please use a condom. Sexual deseases are rapidly increasing in China!

24. CHNLOVE assistants are usually very friendly and helpful. Don't blame them for problems in the system.... they are just following their bosses and want to keep their job. So, be reasonable.

Drop me a line at eifachcool@hotmail.com if you wish to have a private recommendation. Again, CHNLOVE is for average people with (good!) average salaries and average expectations. It is not a place for elite marriages.